An Advice Series for Women of All Ages
I am so excited to bring you another installment of Dear Mrs. R. I truly value all of my readers and your support has been amazing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
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This week I have chosen a question from Ellie V. Ellie asks:
Dear Mrs. R, My daughter is 14 years old. She is having a very hard time with her weight as well as facial breakouts. I’m very concerned about her because she has always been a slender, happy child. She came home very upset and when I asked her “What was wrong?” She told me. “she was being teased because of her breakouts and weight by the other girls in the neighborhood.”
I’m a single Mom who works 2 jobs. I know that I should be concerned with our diet more than I have been but I just don’t have a lot of time. I’m especially concerned about school starting here soon. I worry so much that my daughter will be teased at school. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do to help her get better control of her weight and breakouts. She’s a junk food junkie but since being teased she has stopped eating as much as she use to and has expressed a desire to eat better. She tells me that I need to eat better too! Haha
At this point, I can use any advice you have. Thanks for listening to me and I hope you can help.
I completely understand how hard things can be when you’re a single Mom. I was a single Mom for the majority of my son’s upbringing. However, I have never had a daughter but I was a 14 year old girl with weight issues. I know exactly how your daughter feels and my heartbreaks for her.
First off, let me start by saying that I’m sure a lot of what is going on with your daughter is hormonal and will pass. However, in the meantime, a healthier diet certainly would be beneficial to you both. With school starting up soon you may want to consider letting her pack a healthy lunch as opposed to eating in the cafeteria. In the evenings, you both can prepare an easy, healthy meal together. It doesn’t have to be hard and with just a little planning you can whip up a salad, pot of soup or a meat with a side of vegetables instead of stopping at the fast food spots.
Your daughter is old enough that she could do most of the prep work before you got home. She would also get the satisfaction of helping you out and any quality time you guys spend together will always be a cherished memory. Remember, she’s not going to be 14 forever 🙂 .
It’s almost kismet that your question came in this week because I have a fellow blogger who has some wonderful ideas for healthy school lunches! Her name is Kate Lynn from The Organized Dream . She shared her post entitled 15 Fun School Lunch Ideas with us this week. I love her ideas and they are good for both you and your daughter as well. For dinner ideas, I have tons of easy to prepare recipes here on the blog as well as my Pinterest Boards.
Also, The U.S. National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute has a great activity guide for parents and teens called Go, Slow Whoa!
I have prepared it in a downloadable file for you and your daughter to print and put on the refrigerator. You guys can use it as a daily guideline or take it shopping with you when you are buying groceries.
As far as her breakouts, again, I defer to hormones. However, a healthy diet will also improve her skin as well. I do have one suggestion that you may find a little crazy but coconut oil is great for clearing up skin breakouts. I know you think that’s a little weird but it works, trust me. Have her wash her face with a very gentle cleanser, such as Dr. Bronner’s Peppermint Bar Soap. My son used this when he was experiencing breakouts and it worked wonders for him. The Peppermint Essential Oil acts as a cleanser as well as a decongestant for the skin. After she washes her face have her follow up with just a little bit of Dr. Bronner’s Organic Virgin Coconut Oil.
Ellie, I hope my suggestions help bring you and your daughter the confidence you both need to start a healthy diet and clear up her breakouts. I feel for both of you! It’s not easy being a single Mom nor is it easy being a 14 year old girl … xxoo
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