I write so much about women and midlife that today I want to address men’s healthcare during midlife. Our men are aging and from the recent studies that I have read they have a tendency of having a shorter lifespan than women. Why is that do you think?
We look at our men as the family provider. Many of our men are electricians, plumbers, carpenters and engineers. These men are responsible for the very infrastructure you drive on, walk on and even live/work in. Many of our men are doctors, lawyers, farmers and bankers. These men are responsible for our health, our protection, our money and the very food we provide for our families. That seems like some heavy responsibilities doesn’t it?
Men are also stubborn, hard headed, have a feeling of invincibility and have a delusion that they will live forever. They are wrong. You know it and I know it.
Now don’t get me wrong, I know women hold similar positions, have been the family bread winner and hold just as much, if not more, responsibility, if you factor in all the household chores and child rearing that we do. But, this is what sets us a part from our male counterparts, we take care of ourselves. We schedule those important doctor’s appointments, we strive to exercise our way to better health, we strive to eat properly, we look ahead in our financial goals. Men depend on us to do this for them. We are the support system that holds the fibers of our families together. Here is what we need to know about men’s healthcare and what they need:
Men Need A Skincare Regimen – Don’t let him tell you that it’s a lady thing
Men are no happier about seeing fine lines around their eyes and mouth than women are. But it’s not a wrinkle issue, per say. Skin becomes discolored, blotchy and it gets dry, making a man look much older than his years. He needs to start by feeding his skin from the inside out. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables rich in antioxidants, vitamins and minerals so that his skin cells have a fighting chance.
Men generally have to shave their face which can be extra harsh on them. A good after shave lotion is his first line of defense against the appearance of fine lines, wrinkles, sun & environmental damage, dull uneven skin tone and post shave irritation. Mr. R is very partial to his Rugged & Dapper Facial Moisturizer and I’m partial to it for its all natural and organic ingredients. He says this facial moisturizer really helps with the dryness from the sun and wind as well as the after shave burn. I’ve even noticed a difference in his skin.
Washing his face is a must. Whether he’s wearing a three-piece suit to the office or working outside in a labor-intensive job. We all have dead skin cells that need to be sloughed off. Once in awhile he may also want to use an exfoliant. This doesn’t have to be a daily skincare routine but it can be a few times a week. Mr. R isn’t one to wash and exfoliate his face everyday but will do it a couple of times a week. He will use his Rugged & Dapper Facial Cleanser on his face as well as his beard. I have to chuckle at him because I really think it’s that word “rugged” that has him sold on these products lol.
In the Winter, Mr. R has a terrible time with his hands being extremely dry which leads to chapping, cracking and bleeding. It would become so painful for him he had a hard time wearing his work gloves. He tried numerous products that touted beneficial results for chapped and cracked hands but nothing worked quite as well as Jack Black Industrial Strength Hand Healer. He loves this stuff and it has really improved his chapped hands.
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As a man ages he starts to lose testosterone which is an important hormone that keeps him youthful and energetic. Luckily, he can supplement that hormone to help restore some of his testosterone. There are natural testosterone creams that help combat the loss of testosterone in his body. Some men see a loss before their 40s, but others begin a gradual decline around that age. Mr. R has mentioned this to me on several occasions. However, after doing the research, please go see your doctor before using any bio-identical testosterone cream. This is one hormone you do not want to mess with unless you are being monitored by your doctor.
When his testosterone begins to decline he will notice a wide range of symptoms, including:
- Sexual dysfunction
- Loss of bone mass
- Increased fatigue
- Memory loss…and more.
Testosterone is the main hormone that men have in their bodies. He wants to be a viral man, not a man who is suffering from physical and mental weaknesses. Supplements can help him with this pursuit. However, as always, please check with your doctor.
If he losses testosterone at too rapid of a rate he will become at higher risk for developing heart disease, osteoporosis, cancer and other ailments. When he begins supplementing his testosterone (under the care of his doctor), he reduces those risks and his blood pressure, clotting abilities, cholesterol and triglyceride numbers all have a better chance at stabilizing and getting back to normal levels.
If you’ve noticed any signs of low testosterone in your partner, get your doctor to run a test so that he can get treatment as soon as possible. Symptoms include:
- Low interest in sex
- Erectile dysfunction
- Low energy levels
- Less muscle mass, more fat
Supplements for Energy and Vitality
Aside from testosterone therapy, one thing he wants in his supplement regimen are antioxidants to protect his body against free radicals. Every day he encounters things that harm his inner and outer body – and you can’t even see this pollution.
He can start with a multi vitamin made specifically for men. They even have some for men over 50, so make sure you pick one that’s right for his age and not a one size fits all.
He may want to talk to his doctor about adding an aspirin to his daily intake. This can help him avoid a problem that’s common to men as they age, heart disease. Aspirin will keep your blood flowing and work to prevent colon cancer. But it can also cause stomach issues, so let his doctor monitor his intake.
Fish oil is another supplement you want to make sure he’s taking. The omega-3 fatty acids found in fish oil supplements contribute to heart health. It lowers your triglyceride numbers and improves cholesterol. Fish oil also helps retain proper eye health. This is something that typically worsens as we age. Fish oil helps with macular degeneration, but it also helps with glaucoma.
CoQ10 might be worth looking into as well. It helps with cellular functions which keep you energetic and healthy as you age. It helps with so many body functions but mainly heart disease.
Mental Health in Men
The aging population suffers from many issues in the mental health category, including:
- Memory loss
- Panic attacks
Many people don’t receive the help they need because they consider it a normal part of the aging process. But although it’s common, it doesn’t have to be a part of your life.
Many of these mental problems stem from physical health woes and vice versa. You can contribute to heart disease through added stress and anxiety. Being diagnosed with heart disease can cause increased stress and anxiety.
Make sure he maintains or re-ignites his socialization skills. Don’t allow him to become a hermit, cut off from the world, feeling sad and alone as he grows older.
The Washington Post reported in 2013 that Baby Boomers are committing suicide at an alarming rate. As men age, they sometimes find themselves alone, mired in health issues and chained to mounting debt. Sometimes the decision is made shortly after seeing a doctor and discovering a decline in health, so it’s important that he keeps up with his health and talk to a licensed professional who can get him through situations where he might be scared and feeling hopeless.
He might notice that he starts to feel more paranoid, have trouble sleeping, and he’s more stressed out. He needs to learn how to engage in better sleep hygiene, how to implement stress reduction measures and keep his mind sharp as a tack.
He should practice honing his memory skills and cognitive function through playing games that assist him with this. There are memory games online or you can buy puzzles like Sudoku to help stimulate his brain function.
Sexual Issues in Men Due To Aging
A sexual dysfunction he may encounter as he ages is erectile dysfunction. Being unable to get an erection can be depressing, as well as humiliating for a man.
Sometimes it can take longer but sometimes impotence, where a man is completely unable to get an erection, occurs. By the time a man reaches 65, he might be one of the one-quarter of the male population who suffer from this. It generally happens because of other physical issues such as diabetes, heart disease or sometimes even medications he’s taking.
You might find that he’s suffering from a loss in libido. He just has no interest in sex which can pose a problem in a committed relationship. If he’s on medication and he notices these problems arising, he needs to talk to his doctor about possibly switching his medicine to something different to see if it helps. If he’s not on medication, he needs to tell his doctor about the symptoms to see if his doctor can possibly help him find a solution.
There are all sorts of solutions he can try for whatever sexual issues he’s having as he ages. The “little blue pill” known as Viagra isn’t the only thing that works! The key is to keep trying different things until he finds what works for him. He needs to be vigilant about his health so that his body can perform up to his standards.
Is the man in your life stubborn and hard-headed when it comes to taking care of himself?
See you in the comments,